What It Means to Have Heart
In August,
our DLS webinar focused on emotions in the workplace. Something struck when the
speaker said, “set the tone for the energy you want them to match.” It all
became clear. To better deal with emotional dialogue in the workplace, it
starts with you.
Better
communication is a sure way to improve your relationship with others, but why
do relationships matter at work? Our ability to connect with others at work can
impact the organization’s productivity, engagement, and sense of psychological
safety.
Learning to
communicate or deal with conflict the right way starts with you. How can you do
this?
According to
Crucial Conversations (McMillan, 2021), this is as simple as Start with Heart.
What does that mean? When dealing with a conflict your ‘heart’ is your intent
and motive. At times our motives are good, but we approach these situations
with the mindset to defend ourselves, prove the other person is wrong, or make
them change, which makes us lose.
1.) Must stop believing people are the reason for all ails (McMillan, 2021).
Having a fix them, nothing is wrong with me mentality
prevents productive dialogue from happening because of the lack of
self-awareness. Self is an important part of the process: “the only person we
can continually inspire, prod, and shape – with any degree of success is the
person in the mirror.”
2.) Keep the focus on what you really want (McMillan, 2021).
When dealing with an attack your heart can go into fight or
flight mode and you will no longer have your goal or focus top of your mind.
The moment the other person speaks their truth it will become more of defending
your honor or getting your respect back. Don’t forget the motive and goal. It’s
as simple as changing the motive from saving face to solving a problem.
3.) Share your good intent (McMillan, 2021).
Ideally, once your heart is in the right place, make it clear
to the other person you care about their interests in the matter. This will
easily put the other person at ease, which will then help them to check their
heart before the conversation starts.
Grab a copy
of Crucial Conversations today to learn about the Start with Heart process.
McMillan, S. (2021). Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High 3rd edition. McGraw Hill.
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